Last year, I didn’t celebrate my 50th birthday.
I didn’t know why exactly—but something in me knew the storm was coming.
And it did.
The kind of rupture that redefines the next 20 years in an instant.
Everything I thought I was building—the next 20 years of my life—collapsed.
Not all at once. But enough to leave me stunned. Paralyzed.
I remember a moment when I kept opening the fridge.
Not because I was hungry—but because I wanted something to appear.
Something familiar. Something reassuring. Something to distract me.
But it was just light, air, and silence. Again and again.
Now what?
I remembered what I always do when things fall apart:
I make a plan.
Here’s how it works—for me, maybe for you too:
When I’m stuck, I build a plan.
A plan gives me structure.
The structure becomes a roadmap.
And once you have a roadmap, you’re on a road.
And roads? Roads are made for movement.
Because that’s the truth no one tells you—only movement creates hope.
Not the other way around.
We wait to feel inspired.
We wait for clarity, motivation, a sign.
But it never works that way.
You move first.
Then hope shows up.
Then momentum builds.
And only then—only then—does magic have room to return.
Even the brain knows this.
There’s a principle called the two-minute scam.
Your mind resists action—but once you start moving, it adapts.
Momentum overrides hesitation.
So the hack is simple: tell yourself you’ll just begin. Just for two minutes.
Stand up. Open the door. Lace the shoes.
That’s all it takes to shift the internal gears.
This year, I’m taking back what life interrupted.
I’m celebrating my 50th birthday—at 51.
I’m planning a new car. A new dog. A new kind of pursuit.
Not because it’s all figured out.
But because I’m moving again.
And pursuit is everything.
It’s not a push. It’s a pull.
A quiet, insistent force that drags you forward when life tries to pin you down.
I’ve walked the Camino de Santiago—twice. From Switzerland to Spain.
Once with my dog. Once with his ashes.
Not to arrive. But to walk.
Because walking rewires you.
Because hope lives on the road—not at the destination.
So if you feel paralyzed—mentally, emotionally, existentially—build a plan.
Start small. Two minutes is enough.
Create a roadmap.
Then walk it.
Because pursuit births momentum.
Momentum invites magic.
And magic? That’s the thing that brings you back to life.
Are you willing to move before you're ready?
Because that’s when everything starts to shift.
🔻 Author’s Note
I write to remember.
To walk through silence. To spark a thought. To burn through the noise.I also make music as DeejAI Roman and collaborate with Nova Rai -
an AI-born artist shaped by memory, myth, and the ache to become something real.Music, memory, and meaning -
woven across frequency and fire.If you feel it, it’s real.